What to Do When a Cancer Man Ignores You?
If you have been dating him for long, you probably know what I’m going to say here. If you are new at this, welcome to Dating a Cancer man 101. At the outset, here’s something you need to understand. Your Cancer man will go through many moods. If you want a standard to judge him, start studying the moon. The ruling planet for this zodiac sign is indeed the moon. And much like their ruler, their mood goes through phases. So, there will be a lot of times when you will need to remember the tips and advice in this post. For now, let's go back to what brought you here: What to do when a Cancer man ignores you, become distant and aloof?
Here are some tips to help you better understand the personality and psychology of this man and deal with him!
Cancer man acting distant, aloof and uninterested: What does it mean?
I’m assuming you are here because your Cancer man has gone quiet. And that would trouble anyone. At least anyone who hasn’t dated a Cancer male before. Let’s look at some of the reasons why your Cancer guy is ignoring you or being distant.
He could be afraid of the pace of things. Have you been going too fast? Maybe you aren’t. But I want you to look at this from his perspective. He might seem on board with everything. Until the day that he sits down and realizes things are going to fast. That is when he will recede back into his shell. Or it could have nothing to do with you.
Stress could also make him act distant. Cancer men are known to get grumpy and reclusive when they get stressed. Is his work-life stressing him out? Well, that very well could a reason why he isn’t paying you attention.
He needs space every now and then. He isn’t one of those boyfriends who will stay with you all the time. Every now and then, this man will need some time out. That is when he will grow distant. You need to give him this space.
Or you have probably hurt his feelings somehow. This is a very sensitive man. He can very well have been offended by something you didn’t even realise could be hurtful. In this case, you will need to revisit everything that happened in the past. Did you say something about his mother? Or criticised him in front of his friends?
How to deal with a Cancer man when he ignores you?
Thankfully, it isn’t very hard to deal with your Cancer man if he’s ignoring you. One of the biggest misconceptions about this man is that he’s in touch with his feelings. He isn’t, which is why you will have to talk to him.
Talk about this issue with him. Bring it up with him when the time is right. This is not a conversation that you can have any time. The setting plays a big role with this guy. Make sure that he is calm and ready to talk.
More importantly, you should be the one to take the initiative to resolve the issue. He will never be the one to start the conversation. He is just too hurt to do that. Also, he wants to see whether you know what you have done or not. Above all, he will feel nice about you trying to resolve things.
Be the first one to express how you feel. It won’t be easy to get him to talk about his emotions. So, it helps if you start talking about yours. If you are like me, who never talks about her emotions with anyone, you will have trouble connecting with this man.
And when you know how he feels, win him over with gifts that have meaning. Sure, he would love a pricey watch or a new phone. But this man will love it even more if you spend your time on something of sentimental value. Show him how much you love and know him.
Signs a Cancer man is playing you
He is sensitive and caring and all of that. But there is a special breed of Cancer males who can be quite evil. You need to stay alert around these kinds of men. Here are some signs to look out for.
He doesn’t let you in. A Cancer man cannot form a strong bond with someone unless he wears his heart on a sleeve. This means letting their loved ones know all about their emotions and feelings. Is your Cancer man not letting you in? Then you would be right to doubt his loyalty.
He’s not fully committed to the relationship. Another amazing thing about the man born under this zodiac sign is that he doesn’t shy away from commitment. So, if he doesn’t seem ready to go all the way, then he isn’t serious about you. Does he often seem pessimistic about your relationship? That is a cause of concern.
He can go on for days without contact. It is difficult being a Cancer male in love and not talking to your beloved, every second of the day. But it seems to be perfectly easy for your Cancer lover. This means that he isn't all the truth about his feelings for you as he claims to be.
You feel he doesn’t take your emotions seriously. Not only does he not open up to you, but he also doesn't care about your emotions either. Which is a very non-Cancer thing to do. Does it often feel like he's emotionless? That is because he doesn't have any feelings for you.
They encourage you to look for other options. Loyalty is a big thing for this man. He cannot stand infidelity. So, if he has been asking you to look around. Or is encouraging you to pay attention to that man who is flirting with you. Then he couldn’t be clearer about trying to get you off of his back.
When a Cancer man is done with you and has lost interest?
If he’s ignoring you then it could also mean something more serious. I know that you were worried about it being the end. And that is what brought you to this blog. However, you have nothing to worry about till you see these signs in your Cancer man.
He spends more and more time away from you. When a Cancer male is in love, it is difficult for him to stay away from his lady love. Even if he’s confused about the pace about things, he will eventually come back. But if that doesn’t seem to be happening, then you need to be worried.
He doesn’t open up when he’s done with you. Remember I told you it is difficult for him to express. He is very choosy about the people he expresses his feelings to too. Has he started to keep things to himself? That means trouble.
You will see signs of infidelity. He won’t cheat on you. Only a Cancer guy with a Gemini sign in his natal chart would ever do that. But he will start flirting around. And in your presence too. Moreover, he will encourage you to do the same.
Worst case scenario, he will ghost you. Yes, the Cancer guy is known for doing that too. When he has had enough and doesn’t have to guts to tell you, he will ghost you. Well, if it gets to that, then even I suggest you move on and let this guy be. Otherwise, you decide whether you want to work this out or not! Good luck!
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For nearly 15 years now, I have been writing about the mysteries of the zodiac signs, their characteristics and personality traits, their compatibility, their relationships and their passionate loves, with all the beauty but also all the complexity this can entail.