10 Signs an Aquarius Man is Using You
If an Aquarius man is in love with you, he'll creatively express his feelings for you. Though he loves his independence, he will build a solid foundation with you. However, if he is only casual, you'll notice certain red flags in his actions. So, do you doubt that you Aquarius man is manipulating you or just playing with your feelings? How to tell if an Aquarius man is using you? How do you know if your Aquarius guy is just using you for sex?
Let's see what astrology can reveal us. Here are 10 clear, obvious signs that an Aquarius man is just playing and not serious about you and the relationship:
1. He isn't interested in quality time
Aquarius men are intelligent. They could either make remarkably great changes in the lives of people or use their gift of intellect to manipulate someone for their own interest. They are naturally curious. So, if the Aquarius man you have a crush on and you are chasing doesn't show a minimum level of interest in knowing about you, your likes and dislikes or expectations in a relationship; it is easy to conclude that he is using you for short-term gains. He is responsive only at ungodly hours when he needs your for sex or other favors. Since he is a man of logic, he may not think on emotional lines or show no care in understanding the depth of his partner's concerns.
2. He keeps you at a distance
His communication with you is cold. Most of the time he leaves you guessing about his life and the patterns of everyday conduct. You find him dodging all topics that will give you a clearer picture of his lifestyle. He'll only tell you what he feels you should know otherwise there is a lack of complete transparency. Every interaction with him leaves you dissatisfied. You have a strong gut feeling that something's not right. Whatever he does, you may only discover it on chance and finally, you never feel quite convinced about the stories that he narrates to you.
3. You aren't a part of his circle
He doesn't invite you home. You have never attended a social gathering with his friends or acquaintances around. While he may come up with a variety of excuses to keep you away from them, he actually sees no point in making you an important part of himself. You have no idea about anyone who is close to him. You are clueless about who his friends are or what his family background is like. He has kept you in the dark about his upbringing. In fact, he may have specifically asked you not to bother yourself talking about his personal life. Whenever you have brought up the matter in the past, he has ignored you.
4. He snaps at you
He is pretty much inconsiderate about your feelings. He is rude whenever you want something happening your way. Your interests and needs are the least bit of his concern. He uses sarcasm to mock you. Basically, he understands your weakness towards him and therefore, he is kind of sure that he could get away with his insensitivity. When an Aquarius man is using you or just playing, you'll notice how fowl his language could be when he is angered or you deny him what he desires from you. So, when he is systematically taking advantage of your niceness and making a fool of you, he is not serious about you.
5. He ghosts you often
He is often out of your reach without any explanation of his whereabouts. The men born under the Aquarius Zodiac sign are freedom lovers. They are never answerable to anyone for the choices they make. There is a high dose of unusual characteristic traits in him but when he acts irresponsibly towards you, there is something amiss about the whole deal. When he comes back, he has a list of favors to ask. It feels like a purely one-sided affair when you keep giving endlessly while he feels entitled to seek benefits.
6. It's his way or the highway
Aquarius males are stubborn. You'll have a hard time trying to make them understand your point of view if they treat you as a sidekick. There is no compromise at all. So, you feel like a puppet only executing what he asks you to. He will fight with you just so that he could stand out even if his explanation doesn't satisfy your concerns. You are in an ego battle with him all the time. You don't feel cared and there is nothing special about the way he treats you. So, when actions don't justify his talks, your Aquarius man is not interested in you.
7. Sex with him is impersonal
He barely has any time for romance. There is absolutely no warmth in the way he touches you. It is all about his pleasure in the bed and once he is done, he is quick to leave. You don't feel his emotions when he makes love to you. He is not concerned about your comfort and desires. Communication is almost nil so all intimacy is simply casual with no room for passion and equal satisfaction. He is selfish so he doesn't want to waste any time in building any meaningful relationship with you.
8. He is indifferent about your comfort
You are the one making adjustments to his plans. You are voiceless and your opinion has no value. He operates on the extremes and his presence comes at a price which is your respect. He couldn't care less about what makes your life easy rather he is hell bent on making sure that his priorities are met. He treats you like a trophy he has won so there are times he makes you uncomfortable with his touch whether in public or private and even if you have communicated that to him, it has fallen on deaf ears.
9. It's all about his convenience
It has always been about his life, his needs, his aims and his comfort. He treats you like a doormat whose only task seems to be to please him and validate him. He tried to woo you initially making you feel like the most important person there could exist in his life. However, as his desires get fulfilled and he could extract all favours from you, he is now dangerously distracted towards other things. He is also perhaps going around with other women behind your back or has told you that he needs other people to fulfill his sexual desires. He may not necessarily be using you for material favors but if you only exist to make him happy while he is too busy for you, the Aquarius man does not care about you.
10. He isn't ready for a commitment
He tells you that he is not ready or that he does not believe in relationships and marriage. He has been clearly ignoring all your efforts to build a stable relationship. He says he needs more time but the fact of the matter is that he is not sure about you. Aquarius men can have trouble committing to someone for a long time. He is running away from involving himself seriously with you so he never initiates any conversation about a promising future with you.
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For nearly 15 years now, I have been writing about the mysteries of the zodiac signs, their characteristics and personality traits, their compatibility, their relationships and their passionate loves, with all the beauty but also all the complexity this can entail.